3 Things That Happen When You Follow Your Dreams
I come to you, sitting at my little corner office in my living room. It's 2:00 AM; I'm snacking on orange slices; I've just woken up from an accidental nap after putting Ava to sleep. She, on the other hand, is comfortably sprawled out on the couch, knocked out.
Why is any of this important? I'll tell you.
I want so much right now, to be sleeping on my extremely comfortable memory foam mattress. Actually, there's little I want more than that. But instead, I'm writing this post - last minute - but I'm writing it none-the-less. I'm here because I am chasing my dreams.
I lead a pretty okay life but like any other American, I want more, however, not for greeds sake but for comfortability's sake. One day - soon - my family won't be on a paycheck to paycheck cycle, we'll have a rainy day/week/month fund and we'll have a little monetary freedom for me to buy a car that doesn't feel like it's going to break down every time I get in it. This starts by me succeeding my dreams which only happens when I chase my dreams.
No lie, when I found out I was pregnant, I thought that was the end of me. A bit dramatic, but yea, I did. I thought my life would be so consumed by the new baby that I wouldn't have time to work on anything else. I honestly thought that my dream would have to stay on the back burner for 18 years until I got Ava out of the house.
How sad is that?! As mother's we sacrifice but come on!
I'm sure I'm not the only one who's ever felt like this though. I know there are mom's who have completely given up their identities for their kids. They think that by focusing so much time and energy on the kid, they can help the child chase their dreams and that makes the sacrifice worth it once they achieve them. I'm sorry but that's kind of some BS.
Not only is it completely unfair to you but lets face it, you're kid might not be that great as you think they are and might achieve very little. Does that 18 year sacrifice become worth it when lil' Stevie ends up at a dead end job that he loathes despite all of your efforts? I know in my eyes, it doesn't.
So as I continue to work my a-- off, I've noticed three very important things that can happen if you chase your dreams.
1. You Receive Mo' Money.
As I already stated, becoming financially stable was a big motivator for me to get to work. Your dreams don't work unless you do, right? Depending on what your dream actually is, you could be bringing in an additional income for your family. How is that not a good thing?!
2. You Become a Role Model.
Your kids learn by watching those around them. If you are consistently chasing your dreams and letting your child see it happen, you're only teaching your kid to do the same. They'll learn just how important hard work and dedication is and will have better tools to reach their dreams one day. If you have a daughter, there's a little bonus to it. Let your daughter see you slaying your dreams and motherhood and watch her follow in your footsteps and do the same.
3. You Get to Be Happy.
As mothers and better halves, we constantly do for others. That's a given. What about you though? You need something to call your own that gives you your own sense of achievement. When you chase your dreams and hit little wins along the way... Let me tell you, this feeling is amazing. You get an overwhelming sense of pride over the smallest thing. Imagine how happy you can be when your dream becomes a reality?!
After having Ava, and more financial responsibility, a fire was lit under me. I started racking my brain on not only how to make this dream with my best friend work, but also my dream of having my own woman's clothing line. On top of that, I added working on a kids clothing line with some college friends. Count it. That's 3 dreams being worked on at the same d--- time while taking care of my domestic responsibilities. Yea, I'm great.
I don't say any of this to toot my own horn because I honestly haven't succeeded at any of these yet. What's important is that I'm trying to do for me and for my family and Ava gets a lesson along the way.
What do you think? Should a mom pause everything for the well being of their baby? Or should a mom continue to strive for their own greatness? Let us know in the comments!