A Letter to the New Mommy
As baby Ava makes her debut, I am sure you are pretty nervous. A lot of emotions, thoughts, and worries come to mind when you’re becoming a new mommy. Like will I be a good mom? How can I protect her from all of the hurts in this world? How can I be sure to make her a good person? Well dear friend, there is no book on being the perfect parent, no Parenting 101 manual, and definitely no everything you need to know about a kid book. Because I am your best friend, I am here to tell you first hand that these babies are not designed to be easy. Trust me, it is not a part of their DNA. Some days you may feel like pulling your hair out, other times you may want Ava to go away. You will pray for peace and quiet, forget that going to the bathroom use to only involve one person, and wonder why the floor is so hungry during meal time. I know I know, you’ve been around babies your whole life. But this is different. The feeling of being a mother is different. This child belongs to you and you cannot give her back (no matter how many times in life you may want to). But it’s not all bad! Being a new mommy is hard work, but it is the most rewarding. Ava will stick to you like glue and want to be just like her Mama. She will see you as her first example at knowing how to work her way through this crazy world and because of that you will be better. You will never look at another human-being the way you look at your child. You can be mad at the day one minute and she’ll do something so extremely cute or adorable that you will forget what you were even mad about. You will get lost in her imagination, in her playfulness, in her innocence. You will stand against anything that may try to harm her. You will protect her like no other. She will make you feel and act like a kid again (with adult tendencies of course). Her smile will be everything. And the day you hear her say “mama” you will almost want to ball your eyes out. See being a MOM is hard-work, but the most rewarding. It changes you for the better. And not the hard kind of change where you want to be better because societal expectations want you to. This is the easy kind of better that naturally happens. Whenever you feel like quitting your daughter will give you the strength to keep pressing on. Don’t fret when she becomes Daddy’s Girl. Nah, her love for you can never be replaced. You’re MAMA. And why should it be replaced? You’ll be a bomb new Mommy. Caring and concerned. An ear to always listen with encouraging words to follow. Remember to trust your instincts on this new journey. If you feel something is wrong, it probably is. If you feel something is right, it probably is. And in those times when you may feel a little lost, call me. I am always here to support, listen, and give advice. We are sisters until the end, and I hope our girls feel the same way about each other. So don’t be afraid to jump in there! Rock on awesome Mama…and welcome to the club!