Motherhood, Relationship and Entrepreneurial Goals of 2018
It’s a brand new year. Time for the fresh thoughts, fresh starts and fresh goals. If you caught our #BABStalk from last month of our 2017 Wrap Up, you’ll see that we ended the year on a positive note, but we also had a few things we wanted - and definitely needed - to do better in. If you didn’t catch that episode, you can watch it in full by clicking here.
After reflecting on the past and shortcomings, it’s only right to intentionally change them for the better. That is unless you truly don’t care, then that’s all on you. We care, so we are adjusting and have decided to share those adjustments with you.
As you know, we run Besties and Babies together, but we also run our own businesses apart from BABS. In addition to that, we have a husband and fiance to take care of, kids, our homes, and more importantly, ourselves. It’s a lot, but somebody has to do it right?
Here’s our Motherhood, Relationship and Entrepreneurial Goals for 2018
I regularly struggle with putting myself first or acknowledging what I want beyond the occasional (frequent) piece of chocolate or cookie. I didn’t realize how much of a problem this was until I tried writing a business plan for my design and illustration business and had no idea of the personal luxuries I wanted to achieve for myself. I had to sit and dig deep for answers and that’s a problem to me.
Goal: I will treat myself to something every month (beyond sweets and sugar) with a $20-$40 value. I will value the work and effort that I do and I will reward myself for it because I deserve it.
I talked about my "multitasking" bad habit in our 5 Very Important Lessons of Motherhood post. I have this personality of over doing it. I take on more and more tasks and responsibilities because I can. This habit effects every aspect of my life, but most importantly it effects me.
I don't know where I get off not taking care of myself and fulfilling everyone else's needs before my own, but it's a naughty little habit. Gone are the days of me saying "yes" to what everyone wants me to do or needs my help with.
Goal: I will be saying "no" more often. Every event is not important so I do not need to attend. I will stop volunteering my time when I see someone struggling to take control over a task, especially if I am full on tasks myself. This isn't to say that I wouldn't help someone, but there is a difference between help and what I tend to do (lol). Just because I can, does not mean I should.
I’m a homebody. I like to be in my home, in comfortable sweatpants and socks and to just chill. If someone offers plans for an evening, I will usually try to duck and dive and avoid going. Not because I don’t like them but because I like being at home more. Anymore, my being comfortable with staying at home does nothing for Ava and childhood memories. It does nothing for my parenting memories either. Ava and I have had a few adventures outside of the home but nothing to write home about.
Goal: To intentionally set memories with my family. Ava can’t remember anything right now, but I can. I want her to have a good, fun and memorable childhood.
I'll keep it honest with you BABS, I have a hard time playing with Jayla. Not to say that I never play with her, because I definitely do. It's just to me, she does not play like a normal kid of her age. The girl is super bossy when it comes to playing, tends to catch me at the worse moments, never wants it to end, and her imagination is amazing which is a skill I have not been blessed with. She wants me to chase her around the house, jump every which way, and use my legs as a slide (which hurts by the way) because she really believes that they can be used for that. But hey she is a kid and I never seem to have enough energy (hints why I am changing the above).
Goal: Do an activity with Jayla most days if not daily. This can be as simple as playing with dolls to painting master pieces. I'll just have to steer her away from using my body as a jungle gym and the bossiness (or deal lol).
One issue that repetitively came up in our BABStalk 2017 Wrap Up episode was how much I neglected Love. Spoiler: It was a lot. The majority of my time goes to Ava, followed by BABS and The Delaya B., leaving very little time for him and us and that’s problematic. Luckily, he’s understanding, supportive and about the hustle too but my lack of attention is still unfair to him.
Goal: Make a relationship stronger, be better at communicating my business actions to him and intentionally make time for him and us. He deserves my undivided attention.
I'm guilty of neglecting my better half too. With deciding to go for my Master's degree, starting my own business, and with BABS, there seems to be no time for husband and wife time. And don't get me started on Jayla's love for her dad. She wants to be where he is when he is home, so alone time is difficult to find. Although my husband is super supportive, he does mention that we don't have enough time together. And...he's right and he deserves it.
Goal: Date night once a month is a must! I am making it a point to go out with my husband, alone! No ifs, ands, or buts about it. Unless one of us is hacking up a lung, we are making the time to bond and reconnect without the little person.
The Other Hustle
I have a fashion design and illustration business, named The Delaya B., where I blog and create YouTube videos about my designing journey, the fashion industry, along with a few DIY projects. This is actually the beginning of my confident statement/elevator pitch. In 2017, I spent the beginning of the year not really knowing what I wanted to do and the end of the year developing a focus and niche to work into. In 2018, I’m focused on building. Building my name, my credibility and my clientele.
Goal: Consistently create helpful and entertaining content and to have at least one brand or collaboration client.
I started my own business called Julia M. Anderson Virtual Assistant Services where I act as a Business Administrator and Project Manager for small and online businesses. I just started toward the end of 2017 and secured a few clients right away. 2018 is all circled around growth. Hubby and I have plans for our future and I have plans to be a strong African-American business woman who is well known in my industry. I have a vision of being the go-to person for business consulting and 2018 is the time I will be attacking this goal full strong.
Goal: Continuous growth and marketing. I will be putting myself all the way out there by marketing on my social media channels, in-person networking, speaking engagements, and creating a new blog for my website.
Besties and Babies
I’m so geeked at the possibilities I think BABS can have. The opportunities and doors it can open for me and Julia but also the differences we can make in a number of peoples lives is surreal. In the past two years, we spent the time figuring out what we were doing (because we were completely clueless of this whole thing), who we were as a brand and who we had the ability to help. Now that we’ve pretty much got that down, it’s time to go full force.
Goal: We want to build our awareness and reach to make sure that we’re getting in front of other mama’s like you. We determined that we’ll build our own numbers by reaching out and collaborating with like minded women and mothers. So all I can say is watch out for that!
I know where BABS can go and I know it will take a lot of work to get there. Beside getting in front of more moms like you and changing the way people see Millennial Mamas like us, we want to ensure we are consistent. This way our BABs know what to expect from us and when they will get the awesome content they need/want. We are so ready and focused!
Goal: To stay consistent in our posting and planning with and for a purpose. We have started a new system where we plan all of our content ahead of time (like way ahead) so that we never miss a beat and our audience is always a part of the journey with us.
There you have it! Our goals for 2018 in relation to motherhood, relationships, and entrepreneurship. We know we have a lot going on (as do most people), but the great part about it is we have each other's backs.
We've spent all of 2017 preparing for the major parts of our lives and we are ready to rock 2018 like no other. What about you? What are some goals you are setting for yourself in 2018? Comment below and let's support one another.