Balancing Motherhood and a Side Hustle: A Saturday Routine
I remember when Ava was born, then going back to work and how I felt my life was a mess. While in the new mom stage, I had no structure whatsoever. It was hard for me develop a routine that my family could stick to.
Why do you need a routine, you ask? Because they make your life so much easier. Especially with a kid.
Before having any type of a routine, Ava and I’d both sleep as long as possible, just because. Yes, I was blessed with a good sleeping baby. God knew what He was doing!
Anyways, on the weekends, which is when I had whole days with her, because ya know, working mom, Ava and I would sleep until the late morning, wake up and struggle through the day. It was hard to remember what time she ate or when she should be hungry again, and when I could get some housework done or possibly write something for the blog…
It was a hodgepodge of a day that was of course dictated by Ava’s mood and when she saw fit to go to sleep. 18 months in, I’m happy to say that it’s a different and brighter story.
Yes, her habits and extra dramatic moods can still run the day but as she gets older and I become more experienced, our actions have gotten more consistent and have developed into a Saturday routine.
Delaya's Balance of Motherhood and a Side Hustle:
3:00 AM - 4:00 AM: Sit and Think.
Yes, my alarm goes off butt early in the morning and always interrupts good sleep. What is supposed to happen is I get up, stretch and meditate, brush my teeth, drink a glass of water and reflect, journal or sketch in a bit of personal time. That’s on a good morning. What might happen is I’ll get up, press snooze and get back under the covers and have a mental battle of knowing I should get up and work but really wanting to linger in my comfort. Sometimes I win and sometimes I lose but I eventually get up. I make a bottle for Ava and hand it to her to buy some more deep sleep time. I’ll change her diaper and let her drift back to sleep, full and happy.
4:00 AM - 9:00 AM: Work.
After potentially wasting a chunk of time, it’s time to work. Saturday and Sunday mornings are the biggest chunk of uninterrupted time that I have available. It’s when I like to work on longer projects like editing YouTube videos or doing some creative work and illustrations. These can sometimes be my therapeutic tasks where I get lost in creativity, a positive and negative. But, because it’s so early and so quiet, by about 6 AM or 7 AM, it becomes a constant battle to stay awake. To make sure my Saturday routine stays alive, I have to avoid all comfortable and cushioned pieces of furniture. If I just kind find any way to keep my eyes open, I will take an hour nap and start working again right after.
9:00 AM - 10:00 AM: Ava Time
Ava starts to gain consciousness at about 8:30 AM and is fully awake by 10:00 AM. Yes, again, I was blessed with a good sleeping baby. I’ll slowly bring her into the day by lightly interacting with her; by asking her questions, rubbing her back or lightly tickling her. If Ava can get that good sleep, she’ll wake up as if she were never sleep and had all the energy in the world.
10:00 AM - 11:30 AM: Breakfast Time
If you haven’t guessed it by now based on the timestamps, our Saturday’s are pretty chill when there isn’t anything planned. Now is the time the kid gets to eat and I’ll feed her something for breakfast. Whatever she’s eating, I’ll let her feed herself and during that time, I’ll end up sitting and relaxing (in her line of sight) because it could take her a while or I’ll try to quickly straighten up something or write our grocery list. Love normally wakes up from his second nap at this time. When she’s done eating, she’s usually a sticky mess so she’ll take her bath for the day. If I know we aren’t going anywhere, I’ll just wipe her down and we’ll call it day.
11:30 AM - 12:30 PM: Play Time
Once she gets dressed (if she gets dressed), her and her dad will play with each while her Netflix show plays in the background. Yes, she has Netflix shows. We’ll play with toys or read books. She has this toy, named Beat Bo, which is basically a dance party that she loves.If you have a kid that loves to dance, you don’t feel like joining in all the time, you need this thing.
12:30 PM - 1:30 PM: Nap Time...hopefully
This is the time, I pray, that the kid goes down for a nap. It’s pretty consistent but ya’ll moms know sometimes these kids have their days. If she successfully goes down and I don’t accidentally fall asleep with her, I’ll used this time to do a little more work, wash dishes or plan dinner for the week and finish the grocery list for the week.
1:30 PM - 2:30 PM: Lunch Time
Hopefully, she wakes up later, but if not, it’s lunch time! I’ll heat her up some leftovers from dinner or I’ll make her a sandwich of some sort, depending on what’s available. While she eats I’ll throw on something suitable to the leave the house in and I’ll tame my hair in some kind of way. I ain’t trynna to impress anybody. When she’s done eating lunch and she’s cleaned off we head to the grocery store.
2:30 PM - 4:00 PM: Grocery Shopping
The least fun part of the day. With my grocery list in hand, we rome the aisles of the local Food 4 Less. I ask her questions, like what she would prefer or if we should get something that isn’t on the list. She’ll call every fruit and vegetable an apple and I’ll do match calculations and calculate the cost of everything we’re buying. I try to be silly and make it fun but by the last two aisles is when she’s over it. I’ll hand her some snacks to keep her from crying and will speed up through the last few items before it becomes a meltdown in the check out line. I pay, pack the groceries and load them and Ava into the car and we head out.
4:00 PM - 6:00 PM: Attempting to Cook Dinner
It’s a blur. During this time, I’m trying to make dinner and the kid is either being a good sport and playing with Daddy or she’ll be clinging to my every move and crying to be picked. I prefer the latter. If it’s the second scenario, which it often is, I’ll turn on Netflix, hand her a juice or snack and she’ll play quietly by herself while I rush to get dinner on the stove or in the oven.
6:00 PM - 7:00 PM: Dinner Time
We eat! I make Love’s plate and then I make her plate and put her in the high chair. Love and I talk to each other and joke with her as she tries to hold a conversation in her gibberish. It’s cute and entertaining because she has so much to say but we have no idea what it is.
7:00 PM - 9:30 PM: Family Time
With the day coming to an end, we get our last little time together. These last few hours are spent either watching YouTube comedy videos, music videos - old or new -, or playing around as a family. If whatever we’re doing doesn’t entertain Ava, she’ll play with toys or write on her notepad. We play with Beat Bo or I’ll run around and chase her...for a bit. Love will play “Daddy’s Gonna Get You,” their tickling game. This chunk of time is normally spent as a family and I’m always here for it.
9:30 PM - 10:00 PM: Bed Time
It’s Bedtime! Let the choir say “Amen!”
I’ll change her diaper, give her a bottle and will lay her down or will be “around” her until she falls asleep. Her binky, pacifier, is always close by because once she’s done with her bottle, it’s an immediate switch and cuddle. She’ll wine for me to take the bottle out of her presence, will stick the pacifier in and she’ll grab one of her blankets to snuggle to sleep.
10:00 PM - 10:30 PM: Lights Out!
Depending on how tired I am will determine my next move. If I’m just done with the day and need it to be over, I’ll wrap my hair, put on PJ’s, hop into bed and go straight to sleep, leaving Love to enjoy all my snoring. But if I feel up to it, before I go to sleep, I’ll still wrap my hair but I’ll take the time to also wash and exfoliate my face and possibly shower. I’m just keeping it real guys. After that, I’ll hop into bed and leave Love to the sweet melodic sound of my snores.
And there you have it BABS, that’s my saturday routine being a mompreneur. I know that some of you guys cringed at how early I wake up or how late the kid wakes up or goes to sleep but what I figured out early on is, is that this is what works for my family and my household. Plus it’s Saturday, so who really cares?
So, now you know how Ava, Love and I spend our Saturdays. Let me know what you and your family do on Saturdays? What does your routine look like? Are there games or events you have to go to? Family members you visit? Whatever it is, let me know in the comment section!