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17 Ways Moms Can Support Each Other

17 Ways Moms Can Support Each Other

Motherhood is hard.

I don't care what anyone says.  It is one of the hardest jobs out there and you don't get paid for it.

You're expected to show up every day.  To give your all, every day.  To be unwavering, every single day.

We're supposed to be all these things and it creates an image, a heavy pressure that we're afraid we may not be able to live up to.

We might be so tired that we have to make excuses to stay in the house or get so annoyed that we want you to stop asking about the baby altogether, but that's just because this ain't no easy thang.

What's worse, is when you feel like you're going through all of it by yourself.  Like there's no one out there that can support you through any part of it.

I've been on both sides of the fence.  I've been the friend to a mom without having any myself and then for some reason, I had a baby on my own and maintained friendships with mom and non-mom friendships.

Through my friendships, I've given and received support and help. One of the challenges of giving each other support though, is knowing how to give the support.  It can be even harder when you're consumed in your own motherhood responsibilities.

So because of that and because we like fostering relationships and support on our blog, we asked other BABS across the inter web, how moms can support other moms and this is what we've come up with.

Motherhood is hard and we shouldn't have to go through it alone.  We should be lending a helping hand and raising each other up but sometimes, figuring out just how to do it seems like it's a lot of work when it's not.  We, along with other BABS, are providing some good ideas on how you can help your fellow mom.

17 Ways Moms Can Support Other Moms

1. Having a listening ear.  Moms need to vent without judgement and sometimes without being given advice (unless asked for)
-Julia

2. Speaking up and helping when someone is being mom shamed.  Again this thing is hard.  No one should be criticized for doing what they think is right for their kids.
-Delaya

3. Telling her what you see in her is beautiful. Some days we feel much less than beautiful.
-Stephanie L.H. Calahan of Stephanie Calahan

4. Asking what's wrong. 
-Julia

5. Including each other on opportunities that can move the other forward.  Whether in business or personal growth, just help them better themselves.
-Delaya

6. Bartering services. I met a mom when I first moved to Georgia. I kept her son while she worked overnight and would take him to school with my son. As time passed she started keeping my son after school and we continued to switch off supporting each other.
-Lashonda of A Boss Virtue

7. Having playdates with each others kids.  It keeps the kids occupied and gets them out of the house. 
-Julia

8. Being encouraging through struggles and on the way to accomplish goals.
-Delaya

9. Not comparing children. They are all special in their own way. They all have things they are good at and things they struggle with.
-Stephanie L.H. Calahan of Stephanie Calahan

10. Trading kid watching services.  Everyone can use a date night, girls night, me night, etc. 
-Julia

11. Helping and being present through the transition of becoming a mom when she's left to fend for herself and the baby. 
-Delaya

12. Providing the most helpful books you read before you became a mom. There are so many books these days on every topic imagineable, so it is nice to just know a book is worthwhile before wasting your time or money on it. Two of my absolute favorite recommendations are Ina May's Guide to Childbirth and Your Child's Self-Esteem by Dorothy Corkille Briggs. -Surya Chronister of The Crazy Busy Mama

13. Sharing your own experiences. 
-Julia

14. Asking for help or receiving help and giving her a little bit of purpose beyond mothering. -Delaya

15. Supporting her choices to work or not work outside of the house, to breast feed or not to breast feed. I know you may be passionate about your personal choice but keep it to yourself unless asked.
-Stephanie L.H. Calahan of Stephanie Calahan

16. Sharing each others businesses.  Everyone has a network they can pitch to. 
-Julia

17. Offering all of your knowledge on items and hacks when asked because why not help to make life easier.
-Delaya

Motherhood is hard and we shouldn't have to go through it alone.  We should be lending a helping hand and raising each other up but sometimes, figuring out just how to do it seems like it's a lot of work when it's not.  We, along with other BABS, are providing some good ideas on how you can help your fellow mom.

If you recall, there's been a number of times where Julia and I have shared our breastfeeding stories (Julia's breastfeeding experience; Delaya's breast feeding experience) and how each of us were probably on the verge of postpartum depression.

Both of us felt the world was so big at that time but no one understood what we were going through.  We had some family support but nothing that had any real weight behind it.  Nothing that was on the level of someone understanding exactly where our minds were.  We were completely lost.

If at that time, we had the support or other moms who shared the same thoughts and experiences that we did, I think the way we handled and accepted our situations would have been better.  With support from another mom who knew what we were going through, it could have killed our dramatizations and helped us get through it a lot easier.

So, if you're a mom who is very aware of our struggle - and even if you aren't - lend a helping hand to support another mom.  You don't know how much positivity might come from you lending out a hand of support.

Are you a mom that could use some help or has struggled with something in the past and can give your 2 cents?  Let us know in the comments below.

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