Why We Don't Incorporate Santa Into Our Household
The holidays are here! And I am too excited. I absolutely love this time of year when family and friends get together. You can practically smell the love. Now, I am a firm believer in showing the ones you care about all throughout the year that you care about them, but there is always going to be a little extra around the holidays.
Let me start by saying, to each his own. I have many friends that incorporate Santa into their children’s lives and I always say “more power to you” or “I don’t know how you can do it” because that whole elf on the shelf thing is ridiculous. Crazy part about it is that I love ALL of the holiday songs. I know them front to back and I listen to Christmas music on the radio starting November 1st.
However, I will not teach my child about Santa and though we may sing the Santa Clause songs, I will always reiterate that Santa is not real.
Here is my thing, why in the world would I give credit to some fictional character for all the hard work I put in shopping for gifts, wrapping gifts, and filling the house with the holiday spirit? This stems back to my moms childhood. My grandparents were by no means rich. They themselves grew up poor and were a step above when they had my mom. My grandfather basically told my mom “aint no white man coming in my house and giving you nothing.” Remember the times before you get all judgey, but heck he’s right. We never grew up believing in Santa and little ol’ me tried to tell the other kids that their parents were lying to them. I still remember a girl in kindergarten telling me she wasn’t my friend anymore. It still makes me laugh.
Another reason I am not teaching about Santa is because of my religion. I am a Christian. A follower of Christ and a God fearing woman. What I know is that this is the time we take to celebrate the birth of Jesus Christ. I can also or instead do it in the summer because that’s technically when Jesus was really born, but eh not sure He bothers Himself with such trivial matters. Instead, I choose to teach Jayla about the goodness of Jesus and what a blessing it is to have had Him born. I give the traditional gift giving because the wise men brought gifts to Jesus. I also decorate the house and though I know the Christmas tree is linked to Paganism, I put it up because it is pretty. If ever I am convicted about having one, I will surely stop, but I don’t pray to it so I think we are good.
Lastly, this motherhood thing is challenging enough without having to put in extra efforts for some make believe character. For example, the elf on the shelf. How exhausting! If you are unfamiliar with the story of this little character, allow me to fill you in. The elf is assigned to each child, so if you have more than one, be prepared to buy more than one. The elves are in your home to watch the kids and make sure they are on their best behavior and then every night when the kids go to sleep, they report back to Santa. This means that when the next day hits, those elves better be in a different spot and position so they can look like they are working. Smh. Ain’t nobody got time for that. Meanwhile, you are out buying gifts and hiding them in your home and God forbid one of the kids finds a gift and asks questions on how you got it from Santa. Now you’re wrapped up in a tangle of lies. I repeat, ain’t nobody got time for that.
I know so many parents that are just like “it’s fun for the kids”, which brings the question “so nothing else about Christmas can be fun?” There are plenty of fun filled, no stress, no lying things you can do with your kids. I’ve heard of kids that think people are insane if they don’t believe in Santa and then they boo hoo cry when they find out everything is a lie. Nah, I don’t have time for that stress and then the moment when my kid finds out or I “break” the news that Santa isn’t real. Why do hearts need to be broken? I will gladly keep my way of spreading the goodness of Jesus and the true reason for the season without some fictional character taking all the credit.
Do you share Santa with your kids? Let me know in the comments below.