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How to go Into the New Year Feeling Positive

How to go Into the New Year Feeling Positive

I came into 2017 thinking, "This is our year!" I lumped Love into that sentiment and he willingly accepted it. This was a our mantra as we expected great things to happen to and for us in 2017. Well, that thought lasted until about April, when all of the bad stuff just seemed to pile on and on until eventually, all we wanted to do was to stay afloat.

Don't get me wrong. I had a cake walk compared to a lot of other things that happened this year. There were natural disasters in Puerto Rico, Mexico and Houston, terrorist attacks in Vegas and throughout Europe, and all the governmental changes and stupidity caused by President 45's actions. It's safe to say that I didn't have the absolute worst year possible and I'm grateful for that.

Keeping it in perspective, I'm ready for 2017 to be over.

This year rocked me.

I got into 3 car accidents. My car that required no car payments ended up dying so I "bought" a new car and am now in the Monthly-Car-Payment-and-High-Insurance-Rate Club. Love had a health scare. My mom's health hasn't consistently been that great. And I'm liking my day job less and less each day.

The damage has been done. I'm resetting myself and I'm patiently and positively waiting for 2018 to arrive.

Are you wondering, how I'm so hopeful for the new year when this one's kind of been in the potty the whole time? It's okay if you are. I know a lot of people who struggle with looking towards the new with a positive vibes when the past is holding them back. If this is by chance you, here's what you can do:

How to Go Into the New Year Feeling Positive

1. Get a vision of what you want.

You should have a goal or something to work towards in the new year. Nothing will make you get out of bed faster than to have a purpose and passion you're working towards. It's the best way to feel useful and needed and also accomplished when you finish a big task.

If you didn't know, Julia and I both run seperate businesses aside from Besties and Babies and we both have major goals to get all three off the ground and to set us up to do big things. Not just financially, but I mean we'll accept that too.

We know what we want and it lights a literal fire in us every day, even when we get discouraged, because we have a purpose for each that's bigger than us individually. Why wouldn't that make you feel positive about the new year?

2. Acknowledge the bad but only take the good.

Ish happens, we all know that. The crucial part though, is it happens for a reason. Whether it's a gut check or it knocks you down completely, it's only temporary. Work your way through it, learn something and use it to your advantage in the future.

Keeping it real, I was excited to get a new car. Trouble, the one that died, yes his name was Trouble, was exactly that, trouble. We went to the dealership that weekend, I went for the less expensive yet okay-est car. I ran my numbers and thought everything was going to be alright. Well, when I ran my numbers, I didn't account for any unforeseen bills or payments springing up or if I would be able to save any money for a rainy day fund. 8 months in and I regret the car purchase but it has definitely been a lesson learned that I will carry with me for the rest of my life.

Don't try to ignore the bad like it's something to be ashamed of. Give the bad its respect, take the lesson you've learned and then move forward. Don't marinate in the negativity.

Sometimes, it's hard to be positive about a new year when the one you're currently in was really hard to get through. Here are 5 easy things to do that will help you go into the new year positively.

3. Have a positive mindset.

I've recently been hearing a lot about the law of attraction. How if you keep your positive vibes and speak positively and confidently about something you want, if God (or the universe, whatever you believe) see's fit, it will happen.

Your mind is the strongest muscle you have. You can feel upbeat or like total poo for a day based on your thoughts alone. Looking back at my year, it didn't start to feel "negative" until I gave up believing our mantra that "This is our year." I lost the hope that that sentiment gave and with it went my positivity for the year.

4. Get a good support system.

I would be absolutely nothing without my family and friend's support. When I'm feeling low, their words and kindness mean the world to me. When I'm feeling great, they gas me up to no other! When I win, we all win. If I lose, I don't really lose.

Build yourself up a small circle of people; this can be your family, friends, co-workers, genuine followers, fans or whomever cares about you! Knowing that they're there offers a huge foundation for you to stand on. You will feel unbeatable when your people hold you up.

5. Have Faith.

With out a doubt, this is the main thing that has gotten me through the year. Through all of the ups and downs, my faith in God has remained. I know that He has me no matter what obstacles I go through.

Even if you're not religious, you can believe that there's something bigger than you out in the universe. Whether it's another entity, kharma or the cosmos, believing that something or someone or someone has your back and is watching over you is comforting.

This is how I will remain positive about 2018 and keep my positivity through the year.

Being honest, 2017 wasn't all that bad... Lessons were learned, developments happened and memories were made. Julia and I decided to recap our year and answer a few questions about our motherhood, relationships and businesses and what happened with them in 2017. Here's our 2017 Wrap Up from this months #BABStalk episode!

Let me know in the comment section how your 2017 went and how your positively going into 2018.

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