5 Ways to Keep Your Marriage Fresh
IT'S MY ANNIVERSARY! Yup, that's right! Hubby and I are celebrating 5 years of marriage on Sunday and we couldn't be happier about it.
I know, I know. "You guys are young. You're still in the honeymoon phase." Well, duh! That's how it's suppose to be. And it will be that way come 10, come 20, come 30, come 60 years. Why because I choose to date my husband. Now I know that sounds weird, but let me explain. When I date my husband, it keeps the relationship fresh. It's like when you first meet someone and everything about them is good, even the bad can somehow be looked at as good. Well, when you date in your marriage, it's the same thing.
Too many marriages grow dry and partners stop caring. Routines get old and stale very easily. Hubby and I received the best advice before we got married, "If you wake up each day and try to outdo each other in serving, you will live happily ever after." You may not realize it, but marriage is all about serving your partner. And to keep it fresh, you have to always be thinking outside the box. Have fun with each other and don't let things get too boring. Try and discover new things together. This may not always be easy, especially after having kids (Trust me!), but it is doable. And just to make it that much easier, I have put together 5 ways to keep it fresh.
1. Joke with each other
Haven't you ever heard of laughter being the best medicine? You should be able to laugh at each others shortcomings and gut cry when one of you trips on nothing. Make a poop joke or two and when one of you is taking life a little too seriously, respond with something so ridiculous that you bust up laughing. Hubby and I laugh together all the time. Swear to you this dude says some of the most ridiculous stuff. Half the time I'm like, why do I even try? (I'm sure he thinks the same about me at times lol) It isn't always all fun and games, but why can't you act like a chewy jolly rancher most of the time? You know, teenager on the inside, but hard adult on the outside. When you are able to have fun with one another, there is no place for drab and boring.
2. Do It!
This one kind of needs no explanation. Couples that stop having sex completely are doomed. The point of sex is to make the man and woman one. Do you know what kind of connection that is? Without that element in your marriage, connection between the two of you will be lost. Now, I'm not going to tell you how many times to do it or how but...you got to do it.
Take time out away from the kids, work, and other stresses of life. Sit with your lovely lady or handsome gentleman and have a good time with just each other. The activity plays no role here. It's not about what you do. It's about spending time together. Hubby and I go out with just us at least once a month. If more times can happen then we seize those opportunities when we can. We also do a lot of couple outings. Its fun for us to talk to other couples that are like us.
You married your best friend right? Well, from what I know about best friends, you joke all the time with them. You laugh, you cry, you share practically everything. It's the same with your spouse. Communication allows both parties to be heard and to express themselves. If no one has built up frustration because they discussed their problems, then no one has time to argue and be frustrated. That just leaves more room for fun and excitement.
5.Support each other
Supporting and pushing your spouse to be the best they can be brings happiness to the table. There is no better feeling than knowing there is someone there backing you up all the way. I consulted Hubby a lot for the points of this post and he said this can go on the list, however it doesn't make him warm and fuzzy, just happy (LOL). Happy people are fun people, so I'll take it!
Relationships in general are not that complicated. People make them hard when they bring in all unnecessary drama. Don't get me wrong, marriages aren't a walk in the park. They are work. Individuals in them need to make a decision to work everyday to serve the other, but not make it complicated. Thinking of ways to keep it fresh is one of the best things to do. This way you will be dating in your marriage and live happily ever after. That is what I am doing and the reason why my husband and I are celebrating five years of marriage. So, start fresh tomorrow and keep those marriages on track and blissful.
Tell us the ways you keep your marriage fresh in the comments below.