Happy Father's Day: All About Daddy
HAPPY FATHER'S DAY! Can I just say that I am so happy that this holiday exists! To be able to honor a man for being an excellent father is something very special. It wasn't always that way, however. I didn't really grow up with my father and the holiday never meant anything. I wasn't even sad about it (kind of happy I got to keep my money, selfish I know) but there was no use wasting tears on something that never existed. Fast forward to today and I am happy to make a big dinner and splurge on a man that has truly shown me and my Mini what a true father is! My hubby is the most amazing dad I have ever seen and this post is a dedication to him and the amazing job he is doing.
Hubby was very nervous about becoming a father. Mainly because he didn't have the ideal father growing up either, nor any up to par father figures. He revealed to me on a car ride home that he wasn't sure if he could be a good father because of all the examples he had had in his life. I was stunned! He had never seen a good example of a marriage either, but was the most caring husband a woman could ask for. I simply told him that he has had the perfect example of how to be a father. Do the exact opposite of the crap that you had growing up. I also added that "I ain't stupid and would only choose a suitable man to be the father of my child, and since we are married, it must be you (*wink)". Hubby was very indifferent about the sex of our child, but when we found it was a girl he couldn't deny that twinkle in his eye. He wanted a Daddy's girl. He wanted to teach our daughter how a man is suppose to love her, how he would be her best friend, how he would take care of her, and how to play and enjoy life. The first time he held her I could see the beauty in their relationship. I saw just how much he loved her and wanted to be a part of her life; a very significant part.
From her day of birth, Daddy and Jayla have been inseparable.
Since hubby was nervous to begin with, he wanted to do everything right, but there is no clear cut way to parenting. Mistakes will be made and you just have to get in there and be a parent. I helped by not being the overbearing mom that could only do things for the baby (oh you exist and you know you do). I would go hang out with Delaya on occasions and leave Daddy at home to care for a still pretty new baby. I believe allowing him to take charge, helped his confidence and parenting skills. He was comfortable changing diapers, giving her a bath, and watching her all day if necessary. He even sings to her, and let me tell you, my husband's vocal skills are how do you say...bad (LOL). But its ok! See, being a father is more than just providing money, food, and a place to stay. Being a father is being there to wipe their nose when it runs, kiss the boo boo on their leg, give advice when needed, and read to them before they go to bed at night. It's combing their hair because it needs to be combed; even if you don't know how. It's rocking them to sleep even if they are screaming half to death, it's waking up in the middle of the night because Mom needs a break, and it's sharing your food and changing poopy diapers.
Being a father is being their for your child and building them up. Giving them that free for all self confidence to take on the world. Yes, providing stability is nice, but it isn't everything. Building these moments with Jayla like he has done will stick with her. She will grow up knowing well that Daddy was the first man that ever loved her and that if some knuckle head boy comes along that doesn't treat her the same, then he can kick rocks.
I can honestly say that Jayla is truly a Daddy's Girl. He is the apple of her eye, the sprinkles on top of her ice cream, and the delicious cheese in her mac n cheese. And she is the same for him. It is absolutely beautiful to see a girl with her Daddy and I hope that never changes.
Happy Father's Day to all the amazing fathers that take an active role in their children's lives. What are some of the things you love about seeing your husband as a father? Feel free to share a picture or two in the comments below!